Are you in a long-term relationship, and bored? Has the
flame dwindled away? Are you expecting to feel love before giving love? Are you
waiting to feel attraction and arousal before you love? Well, if you’re waiting
for the feeling of love then you have it all backwards. The good news is that
love is a behavior and skill that can be learned.
Love is a skill that you can get good at if you do it
often. You don’t learn to love by reading about it. You must practice it. It’s
our nature to put ourselves first; however, you cannot claim to be a loving
person if you only do it selectively. You must practice loving each other to
get better at it. The good news is that love is an action, as well as a habit.
It’s not a feeling, as most humans believe it to be.
Feelings are associated with lust and desire, which can
turn to love but isn’t love. The old saying may be true: "If you marry on
the strength of puppy love, you'll end up leading a dog's life.” Love even when
you don’t feel like it, and the feelings of love will follow! I do, and I’ve
been happily involved with Ambrosia for quite a long time now. Funny, the old
gal likes to wear my sunglasses, but I think red looks just as good on me, do
you agree? Remember your character is the sum of all your actions, so put love
first.
With Lovingkindness,
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